This idea of being permanently happy can only be applied to the present moment and things you do in order to achieve your goals. Because happiness is all about intentional actions you take here and now, not about what you think or feel. Happiness is not a feeling but a state of being you consciously enter through the actions you decide to take.
We create our storytelling that directly affects our state of mind and personal well-being. Which basically means that stories and narratives we make up to describe what we perceive through our five senses can trigger pleasant emotions like joy or happiness or unpleasant emotions like anger, fear or sadness. As pleasant emotions tend to do no harm even if they have nothing to do with the real situation (the present moment) the trouble starts when your dramatic storytelling causes negative emotions that create suffering that wasn’t even there at the beginning. Sounds crazy right?
Have you ever heard that forgiveness is for you not for other person? It’s true. Furthermore, forgiving doesn not mean forgetting, excusing unaxeptable behavior or minimizing your pain. Actually it’s the opposite. Forgiveness means acknowlege your suffering and using it to grow as a person. Forgiveness means freedom and being able to move forvard with your life. It doesn’t mean that you have to forgive lightly and forget all the bad someone caused to you. Being able to forgive means being able to use suffering and hurt into your advantage and grow from this difficult feelings. Just like letting go of resentments helps you to find your peace of mind and create a healthy balance. Forgiveness is freedom.
Making mistakes it’s essential part of learning process. But to be able to learn your life lesson first you need to admit that you’ve made a mistake and figure out what this situation tells you about the person you are and how you can use this particular mistake into your advantage. This post explain why we shouldn’t see our mistakes as failures and how we can grow from these wrong decisions and evolve into the best version of ourselves.