Well, today I’m in this strange mood, a retrospective one and there is actually a specific reason for that. I spend all day yesterday with my friends and their kids, 4-years baby girl
A whole day was basically the celebration of “dolce far niente” and embracing the authenticity of the present moment. Because there were too young kids with us, we dedicated most of the time to play on the beach. And I don’t know about you, but the power of kids’ imagination and incredibly high level of creativity just blows my mind. I’m not even kidding, but for
It’s incredible how amazingly self-assured with expressing their own opinion kids can be. I believe that, when it comes to the communication skills, most adults aren’t able to express themselves in a clear, coherent and explicit way as some kids do… I mean, it’s just amazing… don’t you think?
Personally, I think that this is the best way you can raise your kids, especially because we live in a highly individualistic culture, where the main focus is put on individuality, personality, identity
Kids are expected to behave like grown-ups, make adult decisions, choose a career path in their early teens, meet the expectations of their parents and teachers what in many cases basically means chasing someone else’s dreams… And correct me if I am wrong but I think that this is the best way to destroy children’s future potential, personal ambition and self-confidence. So what we should do instead? First of all, we should definitely stop forcing children to chose their career path when they are not ready to do so. Then, we should listen and pay attention to what kids are telling us. Because if we let kids express their ideas, emotions and personal viewpoint they will tell us in the most honest and sincere way possible. We should definitely pay more attention to what kids are telling us because they see the world differently, in my opinion in a more authentic way because they aren’t yet influenced by all of these social norms and more or less accepted standards of behaviors that in many cases only restrict creativity and individuality of a person. We should keep this in mind next time we will label someone as a childish.
Childlike but not childish
There is a huge difference between behaving “childish” and being “childlike”. It seems that society constantly confuses these two completely different types of behavior. Furthermore, these two concepts have completely different connotations negative and positive, the first one refers to immature and silly behavior which isn’t and shouldn’t be socially
Honestly, I think that all of these childlike qualities should be protected, defended and preserved for the entire adult life. Just think about how many times in your adult life someone told you that you are way too much excited, passionate about something, overly cheerful, too enthusiastic or too lighthearted. Some people, the negative ones, tell you these things as it was some kind of insult. I’m sorry, but there is not such a thing that is too enthusiastic (unless we’re not dealing with the manic symptom) so please stop telling this to the people. Just STOP! Only because someone has got a broomstick up their butt it does not mean that we all should have got it… Life is too short to behave like “ an adult” all the time… I’m just saying…
So, if you made it till this part of my post, the last one, here we can finally focus on how to preserve and cultivate the best qualities and character traits an adult can have – the childlike ones.
Here are my 15 simple tips to embrace, protect and develop childlike behaviors being an adult. We all know that
If you miss your childhood and what to relive your childhood experiences there is actually a great way to do this. Here are my tips for being childlike while you are a grown-up 😊 Enjoy!
1. Express yourself – be authentic
Be authentic with your feelings and emotions. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and honest. Unlock the inherent childlike innocence hidden by the maturity that comes with age. Try a radical acceptance, work on self-worth, self-confidence
2. Fulfill your childhood dreams (at least one of them)
Do you remember your childhood dreams that have never come true? Is there any possibility you could fulfill even one of those dreams now, in the present moment when you are a grown-up? If you answer “yes” do not hesitate! Think about this dream, analyze it, plan everything in details and just DO IT!! Trust me, if you manage to fulfill even one of your childhood dreams it will bring you the greatest joy and happiness you could imagine.
3. Recall your best childhood memories
Unlock your forgotten childhood memories by activating your body memory. Ask yourself these questions:
- What is the story of your favorite childhood memory?
- Do you remember the aroma of your favourite food as a child wafting through the air? (I loved the aroma of apple pie)
- What was your favorite book you read as a child growing up? Which character would you want to be and why?
- What was your favourite gelato flavor? Is it still the same?
- Have you ever watched again films/cartoons from the era of your childhood? What was your favourite one?
- What games did you play after school? Did you play stone paper scissors with friends? (I did and I love it!)
- What was your favourite bedtime stories? Maybe the one about ghosts?
- Do you remember the yearly holiday at your hometown?
- Did you ever keep a journal when you were a kid? Did you keep it?
- Did you ever visit your old neighbourhoods, or places reminiscent of them?
Even if you don’t miss your childhood there is probably at least one thing from that era that you think about with a feeling of nostalgia. Am I right?
4. Get inspired
Start your day with things that inspire you. Don’t check your emails, social media accounts or reach for your agenda to check the scheduled tasks right away after waking up. Instead, practice mindfulness or morning yoga, listen to an inspiring podcast or watch a motivational ted talk, listen to your favorite song or read some positive affirmations. Remember that, it doesn’t have to be something extremely creative or original but something that works for you! Remember that, it’s all about your physical and mental wellbeing. What I ask you to do, it a nutshell is to prepare your mind, body
5. Feed your passions
If you feel good and passionate about something just go for it. Don’t think twice, don’t overanalyze it and definitely don’t stress yourself too much about the level of practicability or impracticability of your passion or hobby.
Passion should be a genuine, authentic and creative way of bringing joy into your life. It should be the source of motivation, inspiration and creativity not a way of procrastinating or killing time. And trust me if you set goals for your passion you will find a purpose of dedicating your free time for this. And if you put your focus on your own-self-improvement, developing specific skills success will chase you and maybe in the future you will be able to make money from your passion, if that is your goal of course. However it shouldn’t be a determining factor for practicing a hobby or feeding your passion. Just look at passio like kids do it, be creative, genuine and don’t be afraid of taking some (reasonable) risk. There is no such thing as meaningless or ridiculous passion. You are keen on collecting stamps (my grandpa was), fork bending, soap carving or any other strange or weird way of spending free time, don’t think twice, if it brings happiness and joy into your life go for it!
Do what your guts tell you! Figure out what you are passionate about, set goals and have fun! Remember that when you have a clear vision, magnetic things occur. Trust me.
6. Change your perspective
Children and adults see the world differently. Not because of the night but because kids are innocent and pure at heart. They world is not restricted by social norms and socially accepted behaviors that sometimes are the only obstacles of chasing our dreams were we are already grown ups.
Kids are incredible. They explore the world using all of the senses. They don’t just look up and judge others by their own standards. Kids don’t label people until they are taught to do this by adults. Kids look at the world through rose-colored glasses because of they innocent and pure at heart. They have this incredible ability to express their feelings genuinely and openly. They don’t calculate what will pay off. They don’t care about social status. They don’t judge others based on money.
We should all view the world through a child’s eyes again for a while. Well, that should be a homework for all of us. On your own time try to relax, close your eyes use your limitless imagination to see again that the world is full of possibilities, you can be whoever you want, everything is new, exciting and extremely interesting. Everything is a learning experience. It doesn’t matter what other people think about you and you can express your feeling openly without being afraid of
7. Create a photo collage
Create a creative mess with your favorite pics from your childhood. Choose your best shots those with funny outfits, strange
I’ve made my photo collage with a Polaroid style. I don’t know about you but for me a vintage, retro style is the one that recalls the most beautiful memories from the past.
Use one of those free, online collage makers like
8. Reconnect with nature
When we grow up we unconsciously disconnect ourselves from nature. We barely relax in the open space, go barefoot or lie down on the grass and look up at the sky? We forget that we are one with nature. And through a connection with nature, we can explore ourselves, develop intuition, reconnect with our higher self and find the right answers to essential questions in life. We forget that we connect with the universe through our senses and that the energy of the universe flows through our minds, bodies, and spirits. And the mystery of our existence runs through our veins.
We should not underestimate the importance of nature because our physical and mental wellbeing depends on it. Furthermore, getting in touch with nature on a daily basis can revive your mind, release stress and anxiety and make you grounded and peaceful.
On your next day
9. Make your favorite childhood foods
What was your favorite food in your childhood? I’m sure you remember it judgmentwell. Think, make a grocery list, buy the ingredients and prepare
My favorite meals or more precisely my favorite snacks, because let’s face it the chocolate bar is not a meal… 😉 were milky-way, m&m, salty sticks, cheese with ketchup (yeah I know it’s lame…), macaroons, meringue, stracciatella and coffee ice-creams and of course fresh berries!
Talking about my favorite meals I’ve always loved pizza and spaghetti bolognese. So as you can see there is nothing healthy in my favorite childhood meals but now when I am a grown-up girl and I am really passionate about healthy food I can make a healthy version of my favorite foods. And I’m exploiting this opportunity as much as I can.
Prepare a meal that reminds you of your childhood and enjoy it!!
10. Be creative
Did you notice that kids are much more creative than adults? They explore the world without this irrational fear of failing, making mistakes, being rejected or being judged. They don’t care about rules, laws or social standards. Kids explore the world using their limitless imagination and curiosity. They paint using their hands, build sand castles, invent their own games and find ideal solutions to their problems without analyzing it too much. You want to be more creative, productive and motivated? Try to think like a child again! Suspend your
11. Switch to a childlike mode
Let’s turn off the socially accepted adult behavior mode and be creative like a child, explore the limitless possibilities you have, suspend the judgment and critical thinking for a second and observe what happens. Try to be indifferent to what other people possibly think about you. judgment laugh? Laugh gracefully. Wanna have some fun? Be childlike and have fun!
12. Be mindful
As grown-ups, we tend to overanalyze our past and plan our future in detail. But at the same time, we completely forget to live in the present moment. We lose the ability to be mindful and appreciate the authenticity and imperfection of the present time. And it’s not a secret that if you’re stuck in the
Find a moment for respite and reflection on your presence. Enjoy every second of your life. Taste the sweetness of doing nothing. Embrace this I
13. Take a risk
Put yourself in unfamiliar situations. Get out from your perfect zone. Explore new things, try new experiences, put yourself in a new environment, let your curiosity to push you. Fear of failure, fear of rejection and fear of making mistakes can be challenging and even extremely terribly debilitating but overcoming these fears can be highly beneficial and actually change your life for the better.
Don’t let fear or insecurity to stop you from exploring new opportunities, learning new skills, discovering new things. It can be overwhelming and scaring at first but putting yourself in new and unfamiliar situations can actually be a key to success. If you think about the things you
Get out of your safe cocoon. Think about things you always want to do or try and go for it. Is there any new hobby you would like to try? Maybe you’ve always wanted to try a particular meal from different cuisine? Maybe you’ve always wanted to visit a different country?
Think, Plan, Organize and Explore!
14. Suspend the judgment against yourself and other
It’s incredibly difficult for adults to suspend their
15. Have fun like a child
Allow yourself to feel an authentic joy. Be true to yourself. Be grateful and appreciate every single second of your life. Don’t let the outside world to control your emotions, feelings and moment of happiness. Stop waiting for a moment to be perfect.
Have you ever laughed so hard you couldn’t stop that you cried and your cheeks hurt? If so do you remember what was funny? Next time when you find something really funny tries to laugh the same way. Don’t limit yourself. Don’t be afraid of your feelings and emotions. Express yourself in the purest and authentic way.
These are my tips on how to be childlike again, develop the ability to express your feelings genuinely and openly, live in the present moment and be pure at heart.
Remember that being childlike means actually enjoing life as an adult!