The sense of meaning is an orienting reflex – Jordan Peterson
I believe everything we do matters because we are part of a social network based on human contact. As a result, every choice, decision or action we take, affects others, even if we don’t realize this. You have certainly heard several times in your life that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. But in my opinion, it’s way more complex than that. By this I mean that, everything we do matters. Because even the most seemingly meaningless thing or event has a significant impact on the overall situation. Moreover, we all know this, sometimes we just choose to ignore this fact, even if the consequences are pretty obvious.
We tend to divide things we do in two different categories according to their importance. The first group is made up of things we consider crucial and valid and the other one, is some kind of bottomless box where we put all the rest labeled as “less important or meaningless stuff”. It is just delusional. Don’t get me wrong, I believe that prioritizing tasks and goals is equally wise and important because it provides meaning in our life and in consequence defines who we really are as an individuals. But, at the same time it is dangerous to think that some things we do or say are meaningless. If it was true we could get away with anything and continue to live pointless life. The truth is that, it is the responsibility that provides meaning in our life. What is more, the sense of meaning determines our existence in the present moment. If you adopt this mindset and the responsibility that comes with it you will draw out your own pathway to personal growth and success.
Few years ago, I was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa and severe depression. From early childhood I was struggling with self-hatred, anxiety and self-harm. Then, starvation became a coping mechanism to me. When my mind took all the control over me, I started to believe that my thoughts are real and valid. Strangely, the more irrational and frantic they were the more I believed in them. And in a flash, they made my life a living hell. That’s why when somebody asks me if I believe in hell, I always answer: Yes, I truly believe in hell because I’ve been there several times.
Unlike many people think, I didn’t choose this illness, this illness chose me. Honestly, I didn’t even notice when it started but I remember I’ve been fighting with my demons since early childhood. Constantly dissociated from the reality I just wanted to vanish, disappear and numb all the pain I was experiencing. It took me many years to find a way to get through this. Everything changed when I discover the concept of mindfulness. Since then, it was and it is still my saviour.
I created my platform to share my passion for mindfulness, holistic living and life balance. The message I want to spread is that through mindfulness you can build a healthy relationship with yourself because:
Happiness is a choice not a result.
This is the mindset I chose to adopt some time ago and from that moment on, I started to surround myself with a positive energy.