Gut Feeling NOT A Wishful Thinking
“Just trust your gut and you will be fine” – this is my best friend’s life motto.
Looking back, it should have been my life motto too, because it would have definitely protected me from making some really bad decisions especially in terms of my past relationships. Don’t get me wrong, I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason and we all need difficult life experiences because they shape us but I also believe in the idea of avoiding unnecessary suffering caused by self-sabotage and other forms of acting against our own interests. Which basically means that we create our own unnecessary suffering when we act against our gut instinct, our intuition and our internal guidance system in general. Isn’t this one of the most obvious examples of paradox in human behavior emerges from irrationality, contradiction and incredibly inconsistency of our decision-making process? We want to be happy regardless of circumstances and reduce our suffering at any cost while we create it by deliberately acting against our gut instinct knowing that its aim is to protect us.
It’s hard to admit it even to yourself but it’s actually a proven fact. We love to go against this first “gut feeling” just to know what happens next even if we can easily predict what kind of consequences our “ignoring a gut feeling” behavior will produce. But we do it anyway falling into a trap of our own ego. It’s a fight against yourself, you will never win it. Unless creating more life problems and moving away from your life goals. And the funny thing is that when asked about why we are engaging ourselves in this self-sabotaging behavior we deny it. How clever… But the truth is that we all have some certain amount of hypocrisy and cognitive dissonance in our belief system. And for some reason, we’re good with that.
Just think about it: How many times you knew that you were acting against your best interests, completely ignoring your intuition but you did it anyway? And then when you had to face the consequences you were extremely surprised? I bet it happened to you more than once. Oh, I hate this feeling… it’s definitely not a pleasant one… but for some reason, I used to act against my “gut feeling” foolishly believing that I could avoid consequences because I am so smart… Oh my gosh…
Fortunately, I am one of those who strongly believe that making mistakes is a great way to learn. So instead of crying over spilt milk I try to turn my mistakes into life lessons.
The Phenomenon Of Denial
So, what’s behind this whole phenomenon of acting against our gut intuition? Why we tend not to trust nor honoring that first “gut feeling”? Why do we choose to go against our best interests even if we are completely aware that there will be repercussions? What drives us to make purposely wrong decisions? Why we try to silence our inner voice instead of trusting and honoring it? It’s completely illogical and makes no sense. Or maybe there’s a reason for that?
Well, I have my theory or more precisely 3 different reasons for that:
1. Hypothesis: Addiction to the adrenaline rush
Explanation: Braking our own rules and challenging our sense of morality gives us this powerful feeling of being all-powerful almost omnipotent.
2.Hypothesis: The combination of arrogance and insecurity
Explanation: Dangerous belief that we can control everything, change the curse of events if something wouldn’t go as we planned and avoid consequences because we are smart enough to do so.
3.Hypothesis: Cognitive Dissonance
Explanation: We refuse to accept the truth and choose to live in denial because who likes to admit they’re wrong?
Intuition As A Precognitive Knowledge
Your intuition whispers and if you ignore this whisper sooner or later it will start screaming. Why? Well, because your intuition or as I like to call it a “gut feeling” it’s nothing other than your internal guidance system, a precognitive knowledge that is being activated every time when you have to make a decision. Sometimes we’re not even aware of this decision-making process because this precognitive quality comes first before we get access to our critical and logical thinking. That’s why if your instinct tells you to run, you should run without thinking twice. And we all know what will happen if we go against this first “gut feeling”, right?
Well, it’s not a secret that fighting against the instinct of self-preservation which by the way is the strongest in all of us, won’t do any good. So trust your intuition and always honor this first “gut feeling”. Because with complete acceptance and honoring intuition something incredibly valuable will surely come. Whether it is your new relationship, a new job, moving to another city or going on a trip you always know what feels right and what doesn’t. Regardless of the circumstances, if it feels like a no, it’s a no. Of course, when it comes to life decisions the best thing to do is to combine your gut instinct with critical and logical thinking because it will enable you to weigh up all the pros and cons. Because what’s better than knowing all the options and letting your conscience decide, right?
Listen to your gut especially when you don’t like what it is telling you!
Ask yourself a question: When was the last time you didn’t listen to your gut instinct and you regretted it?
Well, last time when I completely ignored that first “gut feeling” was a couple of months ago when I started attending a group therapy because I was struggling to accept my father’s disease. Since the early beginning, I felt that something just wasn’t right with the therapist’s behavior but I chose to ignore all the red flags. Besides I’ve been so caught up with my family situation that I was not paying enough attention to other stuff. But then I started noticing that I felt worse after every session, which I suppose is the opposite of how you should feel after a conversation with a therapist… As you can probably imagine that was the first huge red flag of the bad therapy. But for some reason, I decided to continue attending this “therapeutic” (written in quotation marks because I can tell a lot about these sessions except that they were therapeutic) sessions. (If you are interested in this topic I will be writing a post about signs of a bad therapy in the next few days so stay tuned :))
Then when I finally allowed my intuition to speak I was completely shocked, upset and embarrassed. And to top off everything else, my conscious mind was torturing me by asking the same question: “How could you ignore all the red flags?” until I could find some decent explanation for that. To be frank, I place the responsibility of my poor judgment and denial of my intuition on my, at that time extremely tragic family situation. It may sound like looking for an excuse but it’s just how I feel about this… at least for now… but for some reason, I can’t help this feeling that the first impression is the last impression…
This “therapeutic” situation I’ve been involved in, made me realize that we should always follow our gut instinct because it aims to protect us and provide us with the guidance we need. Furthermore, trusting and honoring this first “gut feeling” is a form of self-care that if being practiced it will enhance the quality of your life and help you to create a mind, body and spirit balance.
Signs You Experience Gut Instinct
- You feel a peaceful feeling within your whole body soon after taking an important decision
- You feel confident with your life choices
- You have vivid dreams – yes your subconscious is trying to tell you something…
- You feel this powerful invisible force that is pulling you into a particular direction and you’re not anxious about it
- You can predict someone’s reaction to your behavior
- You become hypervigilant and you start analyzing your safety – that’s a huge red flag!
- You just hear the sound of your inner voice with clarity
- Your body gives you strong signals like chills, goosebumps, tension in the chest, butterflies in your stomach, you start sweating with “no particular reason”
- You feel the strong urge to do something and you just cannot help it
- You feel how creative force is raising within your body and you feel all the excitement, motivation and joy
- Always trust and honor this first “gut feeling”.
- Never ignore red flags and body signals.
- Listen to your inner voice.
- Be mindful.
- Embrace the creator role and create the life you want to live.
and embrace your intuition!