Improve your relationship with yourself

Single or in a relationship you should go on a date with yourself. I’m serious. Strange as it may seem but it may surprise you how beneficial spending time alone actually is. Just think about it. When was the last time you took a break from everything and everyone just so you could spend some time in your own company? When can you last remember spending time alone and actually enjoying it? If you have a hard time remembering it.. well, we’ve got some work to do. And just for the record, we’re not talking here about dedicating time for daily routine activities, procrastination or worrying about what future brings.

Self-dating is about creating or strengthening your relationship with yourself. That’s right, it’s about finding time to feed your passions, cultivate self-care, indulge in mindful relaxation and about all of these fun and exciting activities that you truly love. So if you think of self-date idea this way this whole concept becomes even more interesting. Right?!

Because if you taking someone who you really like for a date you want to do something fun, exciting, creative, active, relaxing and just have a great time. Am I right? So, when it comes to the solo date ideas the aim is exactly the same. But you know what’s even better in dating yourself? That you can boost your creativity, improve self-awareness and self-confidence which is in itself a very good thing. Just look at this as a self-coaching program, an opportunity or a powerful tool for personal growth and self-development. Sounds great, right! I am sure it does. So let’s do it! But first, just a little reminder of what we’re all about.

Why

• to Get to know yourself better
• to Boost your confidence
• to Improve self-awareness
• to Increase your creativity - think outside of the box
• to Treat yourself 
• to Work on Self-love
• to Embrace your inner child

When

Any time you want! Well, ok if it was possible it would be a paradise. But seriously, we should dedicate some time only for ourselves every single day. I’m not kidding. Cultivating self-care is crucial for physical and mental well-being. But if we are talking about going on a real self-date you should do it at least one time a week… Just think about it… Isn’t it great to have some time only for yourself to enjoy your own company… You know exactly what I am talking about!!

How

Plan (be creative and think outside the box!)

Schedule (scheduling means getting things done!)

Realize (take an action, just do it!)

Alone NOT Lonely

Being alone doesn’t mean lonely. Actually, it’s quite the opposite. Because every single moment you spend alone it’s a time for creating or strengthening a healthy relationship with yourself. Let’s face it, there is only one person you will spend all your life with and it’s YOU.

There’s only one person you’re guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with… yourself. Don’t live the rest of your life with an asshole.

-Bill Murray on Twitter

However, before you decide to drop everything and stop engaging yourself in social situations to be able to indulge in a guilty pleasure of spending 100% of your time and energy only with yourself just wait a second. Hold on. You don’t want to go from one extreme to the other. It’s all about finding your equilibrium, a healthy balance that will boost your self-awareness, consciousness and help you to build a strong relationship with yourself. So as you can see, it’s incredibly important to spend time alone with your thoughts, feelings, worries, dreams, and ideas but it is equally important to spend time with others, especially with your loved ones. We are social creatures and even if we try really hard to convince ourselves that it’s possible or practical to be a happy loner… Well, I dare to doubt it. Even mildly neurotic introvert with a highly sensitive ego needs to spend some time with others. Why? Because in relations with others we learn a lot about ourselves. How many times you’ve discovered or understood something about yourself while talking to the other person? How many times did someone tell you what you actually already knew but didn’t believe it until you had an external confirmation? I bet it happened many times.

So yes, the best solution is to find a balance between time spent alone and with others. This healthy, practical and stable equilibrium guarantees of mental and physical wellbeing.  

Precious time alone

Spending time alone and actually enjoying it can be challenging. Especially if you’re not used to it. Don’t get discouraged. It’s all about enjoying your own company (no, not that way… although technically you can do whatever you want!) But seriously when you’re going for a date you want to have a good time, eat a delicious meal, have a glass of some good wine, watch a movie, have an interesting conversation. Am I right? Dating yourself means exactly the same. It’s all about doing something fun, active, creative, crazy or relaxing. Or all at once. Why limit yourself?! Be creative. Get inspired. Think outside of the box. Take a journey of self-discovery. Find out what is your talent, passion, guilty pleasure and favorite way to relax. Be mindful. Learn to live in the present moment and get as much as you can of it. Just squeeze out every drop of joy. It’s all yours for the taking. Following the rule:

“Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself.”

Solo date ideas

Indulge in the guilty pleasure of spending time alone. If you don’t feel confident enough choose familiar places to go for a solo date. But if you are ready for a real adventure just go and explore new places. Go outside your comfort zone and enjoy your own company.

Stay positive

Be mindful

And go on a date with yourself!!

x Kate