Find it hard to relax? Are you stress out or maybe you feel anxious about taking a day off only for yourself? Well, if you feel this way you’re definitely not alone. Believe it or not but dedicate time to relax can be extremely challenging. The main reason for this, in my personal opinion, is definitely the type of culture we live in, where if you are not working you’re not productive and if you’re not productive you’re just lazy. Let’s face it, for people who work really hard to achieve their goals, being called “lazy” is the worst insult they can hear. Somewhere along the line we just forget that in order to be effective, motivated and productive we need to rest, reset our brain and recharge our batteries. We’re humans, not robots. And I’m so sorry but a living creature cannot function as some kind of perpetual-motion machine even if that is what is expected of us especially in the workplace.
Set realistic and attainable goals
Just think about it, how many times you had to work beyond human limits because it’s always possible to do more. You can always be more productive, work more effectively, achieve greater results it only depends on your focus and dedication to your work… Don’t get me wrong, I agree that we should always focus on self-improvement, personal and professional growth because it’s the main purpose of human existence but at the same time we cannot forget that goals we’ve set should be realistic and reasonable. It’s highly important to set goals that you can actually achieve otherwise you can end up extremely unmotivated, discouraged or even depressed. When it happens it’s ahh… a vicious circle from which it is very difficult to escape. We have all been there…at least one. This constant competition not only in the workplace but also in our personal life definitely does not benefits nor ourselves neither society as a whole. I know, that’s a bit of an oversimplification, but I hope you get the idea.
Most of us get our first job at a very young age what does pretty much means joining the rat race. And this is when the constant competition who gets what begins… In many cases at the workplace we are expected to do the impossible and of course not complaining about this because you know how it works… If you cannot do the stuff you’re assigned to there will immediately come someone who will be able to do this instead of you, at least they tell you this… You can call it
We work faster and harder than humanly possible and then when it finally comes to the holidays we are so anxious and stress out that we are unable to relax and turn our brain off. I don’t know about you but for me, it was a huge problem for most of my adult life. Taking time to relax and enjoy myself made me feel guilty. It seems so silly right now but I didn’t see the difference between relaxing, procrastinating and killing time. It was the same thing to me. I know that a lot of people think this way. Somewhere in this constant pursuit of success which definition is very one dimensional in today’s world we forgot about ourselves, our mental and physical wellbeing. You may deny it, but the generally accepted definition of professional and personal success is determined by the amount of money someone has on their bank account… It’s kinda sad, don’t you think?
Pursuit of happiness
Somewhere in this constant pursuit of so-called happiness we completely lose the ability to just stop for a second, take a deep breath and relax for a second. To busy with chasing someone else’s dreams we gradually lose the ability to rest. Then, we realize it’s become too late because we are already on a slippery slope…
How can we avoid this vicious circle? Well, first of all, we have to realize that if we find ourselves thinking that we are to busy to actually take care of ourselves there is something is wrong here. We need to dedicate at least one hour a day for ourselves and I mean exclusively for ourselves. Feel guilty for taking some time for yourself? Fit relaxation into your busy schedule! I’m serious. Don’t look for excuses. If your ego speaks too loud just tell it to shut up. You’re in charge of your life. If you feel tired, anxious, stress out it definitely means that you need to relax. Don’t wait until you will notice physical symptoms of chronic stress and anxiety. Because then, it will be difficult to reverse this process. Get your butt and implement relaxation into your daily routine. I know it can be really hard especially for workaholics and perfectionists
Indulge in the Italian ideal: il dolce far niente
Remember that relaxation doesn’t have to be a waste of time. Learn about many, different ways to relax and use your free time wisely. Who says that you cannot be productive, motivated or effective during a day off? We can always learn new things, practice and develop our skills even or especially during our holidays. Some may say that the holidays it’s the best time for personal and professional development. How is that possible? Quite easily. Learning new things and feeding your passion benefit not only your
In Italy, where I live there is this whole concept of “dolce far niente” which can be described as the art of relaxation. It’s the idea of living in the moment and actually enjoying it. All that matters is the sweetness of an authentic experience of living in the present moment.
Italian “dolce far niente” is a celebration of seemingly minor events like sitting in restaurant or bar and enjoying a creamy cappuccino, delicious spaghetti
“Dolce far niente” does not apply only for holidays but for every brief respite you have during a busy day. It’s a particular mindset, a way of living, a way of enjoying life in the most authentic and honest way possible. It’s experiencing the present moment through all senses. Next time when you will order an espresso in tiny porcelain cup give yourself some time for actually enjoying it, its flavor, delicious and strong taste, its warmth and this incredible feeling you get shortly after drinking your caffè, very serious coffee culture… the authentic one…
Today is my day off… and I decided to take a one day trip
I wish you the best day!