9 Secrets To Success In 2020
A practical guide to a successful 2020!
Set Yourself Up For A Successful 2020
Ok, so you’re still waiting until the clock strikes midnight on December 31 to begin new projects, set new goals and adopt new habits… What if I tell you that you can set yourself up for your best year ever, starting right now!? Because you can and you SHOULD! You owe it to yourself! So without further ado, let’s get into this!
Practicing self-reflection helps you to become aware of the current version of yourself, determine the level of success that you achieve and take the right actions to make good progress in your immediate future to feed your life purpose. Without it, you cannot learn anything from your past and head towards your future. Self-reflection is a key to success in both your personal and professional life. Furthermore, cultivating self-reflection along with self-awareness is just like adding these fresh, high-quality ingredients to my meal. You can eat for pleasure, not hunger. You can live with a purpose not just “drifting” through it. It all depends on you. If you’re ready to take the journey of self-reflection just stand in front of the mirror of your life and explore your consciousness. Take time to delve deeper into yourself. Ask yourself what you need in your life to make it healthy, tasteful and delicious and start adding fresh, high-quality and nutrient-dense ingredients.
2. Use The Time To Your Advantage
In our society so often we live in psychological time constantly thinking about the past or worrying about the future instead of fully appreciating the moments of today. But life is here and now. You are here and now. No amount of guilt, shame or sadness can change the past. Just like no amount of anxiety, worry or fear can change the future. So stop dwelling in the past, you don’t live there anymore and stop worrying about the things that haven’t happened yet. Stop wasting your life and start living in the present moment. Accept the beauty of not knowing what happens next, take a deep breathe and move forward. You don’t need to have your whole life figured out right now to be able to build foundations for your future self. But you need to be true to yourself. Let your core values and principles to be the internal compass that guides you.
Use the time to your advantage but be present. Learn important lessons from your past experience and plan for the future but avoid overthinking and over-scheduling because it will create excessive worrying and unnecessary suffering. Instead, focus on the present moment and start building foundations for your future self.
3. Set Effective Quarterly Goals
Are you’re trying to make a meaningful and permanent change in your life but it’s not happening? Isn’t that you’re overly focused on finishing your never-ending to-do list instead of looking at the big picture and creating a clear vision of what you want to accomplish in the upcoming months? Have you ever heard about quarterly goals? What if I tell you that setting quarterly goals is the key to success in both your professional and personal life? Because that’s exactly how it is.
While setting short term goals and creating a powerful to-do list is an integral part of a successful daily routine it’s not enough to make a permanent change. To do that you need to think quarterly? Why? Well, because 3 months is enough time to create an incredible outcome while not losing your interest or becoming completely irrelevant.
Thinking quarterly helps you to identify your top priorities in life and achieve the desired outcomes. So instead of spending to much time on making a powerful to-do list, look at the big picture and create a clear vision for the upcoming 3 months. Set your smart quarterly goals, structure your daily life around them and watch how a permanent change is being made. You only need 3 months to become a brand new you!
4. Nurture Your Important Relationships
I’m sure you won’t be surprised if I tell you that healthy relationships and strong friendships require work, effort, commitment, time, patience and forgiveness from both partners. They don’t just magically happen except the wonderful world of Disney. But wait, we never see these romantic Disney couples after years of marriage, right? Maybe all these unrealistically ideal couples so carefully depicted in the wonderful world of Disney end up hating each other and filing for irreconcilable differences in divorce soon after we get out of the movie theater. Who knows. We can only speculate. Anyways, my point is that every relationship to be strong and healthy has to be nurtured, just like two individuals who create it. And even if there is no recipe for a perfect relationship there are some ingredients that you need to add to every healthy relationship you want to create with another person. These ingredients are honesty, transparency, respect, forgiveness, affection, communication, compromise, kindness, quality time and personal boundaries. (If I miss something important please feel free to correct me!!)
5. Flow Instead Of Control
We tend to embrace order and avoid chaos at all costs. Why? Well, I’ve got an idea and here it is: I think we can all agree that while being able to predict and anticipate every single event and experience in our life would be easier, less anxious and very uncomplicated it would be also effortless, commonplace and just incredibly boring. Just think about this, if you have the ability to foretell what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, next month and next year you will deprive yourself of all the genuine pleasure and great joy of unexpectable opportunities that are waiting to be found. A predictable life would rob us of all the so bitter and so sweet secrets that we have yet to discover. Besides, what would be the point of living a life that would be so annoyingly planned out? Imagine that you have a choice: you can choose between a completely predictable life deprived of surprises, excitement, and adventures or wild, adventurous and inspiring life experience full of unexpected opportunities and breathtaking surprises. What would you choose? A dull, predictable life or a more exciting and a little bit unpredictable one? Just ask yourself this question!
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- The ultimate way to overcome procrastination and become a highly productive person HERE
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6. Push Forward With Full Commitment
Sometimes life does not go according to plan. No matter how hard you worked or how detailed your ideal plan was life can unexpectedly change its curse. And when it happens you have a choice. You can start mourning the loss of expectations and indulging in self-doubt because of the failure of your plan A or you can take advantage of the current situation and find the alternative for your original plan. It may seem difficult but it’s actually easier than you think. Everything depends on your mindset. We all try to plan out on life and control every aspect of it but the truth is that we truly never know what is going to happen next. Even if this illusion of being in complete control over events gives us a sense of security sometimes is nothing else than a trap we set for ourselves. Because the fact is, we don’t know what’s best for us or what’s truly meant to be until it just surprises us. So if your plan “A” fails instead of kicking yourself over it, take a deep breath, get a clean look at the situation, find an alternative for your plan “A” and keep pushing. Upgrade your mindset, change your method and push forward with full commitment. Don’t focus on failure instead focus on what you are doing to succeed. And remember that sometimes plan “A” it’s not the best option. From my personal experience, an alternative plan is usually much better than the original one! Not to mention that improvisation sparks creativity and freedom!
7. Apply Color Filter
Are you limiting yourself from reaching your full potential and creating the life you want? Are your self-limiting beliefs holding you back from success? If you have answered ‘yes’ to either or both of the above questions then it’s time to do something about it. It’s time to upgrade your mindset. It’s time to take responsibility for yourself and accept your role in creating your reality. Yes, you heard right, you, and no one else, are the creator of your own reality. You create your reality with the power of your thoughts and your personal narrative. So if you’re stuck in negative thinking patterns and your glass is always half empty you’re making your life much harder, more complex and less satisfying than it really is. Trust me, I know exactly what I am talking about. I really hate to admit this, but I used to be a person who always needed there to be a problem. I always had a problem for every solution. Until I understood that I was creating my own suffering. It was the wrong approach to life that was making me incredibly unhappy. Because let’s face it, life is not perfect and it will never be. But it does not mean that we should keep moaning about the things that don’t go according to plan instead of taking intentional action and change this. There is no magical way to live a beautiful life. And there is no perfect version of you waiting in the future. Your life is here and now. You don’t live either in your past or in your future. You live in the present moment. Furthermore, you have the ability to make this moment meaningful, fulfilling and just beautiful. So stop waiting for something magical to happen or someone special to come into your life.
Disable a black & white filter and portray your life in colors. Use a color scheme to create more positive experiences in your life. Replace negative limits in your beliefs with positive images and focus on your potential. Your limits are only in your mind so go ahead and upgrade your mindset!
8. Honor Your Emotions
The sensations you experience at a certain moment are intended to provide you with a lead of what you should do to make things work again. When you have certain feelings, good or bad you need to realize that they happen to you for a reason. To find that reason you need to delve deep and drive out something in you that you need in this particular moment. More importantly, the feelings that you have won’t go away until you find out what they’re trying to tell you.
We have this tendency to label our feelings and emotions as “good” or “bad” on a basis of how they affect our thinking and of course, we try to red rid of those negative ones as soon as possible. Because who likes to feel bad? A rhetorical question, I guess.
But the truth is that emotions play a crucial role in our lives and without them, we wouldn’t be able to make decisions, avoid danger, experience happiness or create an authentic human connection with others. Emotions we have, tell us a lot about the situation we’re in and they won’t go away until we acknowledge, accept and embrace their real nature. They won’t magically disappear only because we don’t like them. But they will stop hunting you if you let yourself experience them without trying to suppress, reject or deny them.
So instead of resiting of what your body is trying to tell you, delve deep into this experience, accept your emotions and work through them to find the reason why they happen. Listen to your gut. Focus on what your body is trying to tell you and use it to navigate your life wisely. Use your emotions, good and bad to your advantage. Use your emotions as your guidance system. Delve deep into your experience.
9. Be Kinder To Yourself
Are you your harshest critic that keeps putting yourself down with negative self-talk and limiting self-beliefs. Just think about how you think about yourself and what words you use when you talk to yourself? Would you be happy if someone tells the same thing you tell yourself to the person you love the most? I don’t think so. So, stop putting yourself down. Stop the black and white thinking. The fact that you’ve made some poor choices and bad mistakes in your past does not mean that you’re a failure. If you want to succeed, own who you are. Own your mistakes and use them to your advantage. Your past is just an experience that uses it to your personal growth and self-development. Be proud of yourself and don’t forget to validate yourself every single time you achieve your goal even a small one. And never forget that words create your reality so pay attention to how to talk to yourself. Be kind to the person you will spend the whole life with.
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22 thoughts on “Simple Ways To Make 2020 The Best Year Of Your Life!”
Hi Kate, I hope you have a great 2020 and I should look back on this to help me 🙂
Hi Simon! I wish YOU a happy, healthy, successful, productive, magical, crazy, mindful as f, delicious, a little bit spicy, exciting, interesting, fun and just incredibly GREAT 2020!! 🎊 🎆 💃 🥳 🥂 🕛 🎉
Hi Kate… I’ve never had someone wish me such a f amazing year ever!
I wish the same for you!!? 😀
I’m glad to hear that! That was pretty original, wasn’t it?! And let’s just say that I wouldn’t mind if you wished me the same!! Have a great day Simon! 😀
It was definitely… I hope you do have a happy, healthy, exciting, adventurous, spicy and all those other things as well ruled into a neat package called 2020 Kate! 😀
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🎊 🎆 💃 🥳 🥂 🕛 🎉
😂😂😂😂 YES!!!!!!!!!! What would you like to happen?
I’m halfway making my vision board so I’m not sure yet… 😁 But in general, I hope 2020 will be better than 2019 for everyone. 🎊 🎆 💃 🥳 🥂 🕛 🎉
I hope so too. Will you tell us what’s on your vision board?
Not yet! I need to perfectionize it first!! Have a wonderful 1st of January!! 🥳
I hope it gets perfect soon 😀👍
Well, I definitely have to add “letting go of perfectionism” to my vision board ASAP… 😅😁 Wishing you a wonderful day Simon!! 😀
I agree… I’ve never seen a halt perfectionist. 😀
Haha, so true! To be honest, I’ve been working to improve my method to overcome perfectionism… I haven’t finished yet because I am still perfecting it! 🤣🤣🤣
There’s an irony 😂😂😂
It took me some time but I’ve finally managed to create an effective method to overcome perfectionism. I will be writing a post about it in the next few days. And I’m sure it will help a lot of people who are recovering perfectionists. 😀😀😀
I hope so – I’ll make sure I find it 🙂
On point 5, my gut reaction is to say that I would rather have life be predictable. Dealing with unexpected surprises when I’m not prepared for them is overwhelming and frustrating. However, I also say this from the perspective of having had a lot of major negative surprises come up lately, and few unambiguously positive surprises, and I know a lot of this has to do with my attitude.
I totally understand what you mean. But the truth is you can never be prepared for all the surprises life will throw at you especially those negative ones. We try to avoid them at all costs but unfortunately it’s just not possible. That’s called life. One of the most important lessons I’ve learned this year is that everything happens for a reason in life and that there is always something good that cames out of something bad. You can learn some positive lessons from the absolute worst experience of your life. I know how it sounds but it’s actually true. Even and especially the worst experience can bring out the best in you. You know this saying: What does not kill me makes me stronger. In hindsight, we all know that it’s true. Not to mention that sometimes we suffer only because something didn’t go as we planned not because we fail or something really bad happened. How weird is that?
Having said that, I like to think that “Every experience, no matter how bad it seems, holds within it a blessing of some kind. The goal is to find it.”
P.S. I hope you’re doing well and I wish you a wonderful day!!!!!! 😀
Good point. And I certainly have had experiences like that, where something didn’t go as planned but it turned out good in the end. For example, the university I attended was in a small town where people tend to be very outspoken and politically active, with a different worldview from mine. Remembering what I was like that that age, I know that had I done more research on the community before going there, I probably wouldn’t have gone there. And by not going there, I would have missed out on some of the best memories and experiences that changed my life and inspired my blog.
(In fact, I think I can mention that in the post I’m working on today.)
THANK YOU for taking the time to comment on my blog and sharing your story and personal experience. It means A LOT to me! I hope your New Year is filled with success, health, prosperity, and happiness. Happy New Year!!!