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Success Starts In Your Head
“All personal achievement starts in the mind of the individual. Your personal achievement starts in your mind. The first step is to know exactly what your problem, goal or desire is.” The next step is to develop success-oriented mindsets that will help you to stay on track with your goals, push through obstacles when they happen and create the life you want.
To help you with that in today’s post we’re focusing on making 5 powerful mindset shifts that will not only accelerate your success but also improve the quality of your life.
Switch Your ‘What Ifs’ From Negative To Positive
The first mindset shift to adopt if you want to be successful in personal and professional life is to switch your What-ifs from negative to positive. This may seem obvious but when it comes to starting new projects, trying new things, and challenging your status quo your brain is doing all it can to make up as many worst-case scenarios as possible. And the funny thing is that it is doing it to protect you from potential risk.
All of a sudden, at one time, your goals become unattainable, your vision extremely distant and excitement turns into anxiety. And as a result, you get stuck and can’t move forward.
The way to avoid becoming paralyzed by the worst-case scenario and take action on your goals is to realize that the human brain is designed to keep us (humans) safe, comfortable, and relatively bored. Hence, the worst-case scenarios aimed at stopping us from taking (potentially risky) action. We’re not supposed to take any risk, even a calculated one because that would cause an increase in our cortisol levels and cause a potential danger to our health.
The reason for that is simple: the human brain doesn’t know the difference between challenging yourself to reach your goals and putting yourself in dangerous situations. Fortunately, your conscious self knows that difference. So when your brain tries to stop you from succeeding you need to take charge and make a conscious shift from “what’s the worst that can happen” to “what’s the best that can happen”. In reality, your outcome is almost always somewhere in between.
The Present Moment Is The Only One You Have
Which psychological time zone do you live – the past, present or future? Are you keep ruminating about the past and obsessing over your mistakes? Or maybe you are constantly worrying about the future, completely forgetting that your future starts now. I think, a bit of both.
As human beings, we have the tendency, or more precisely a strong urge to run away from the present moment striving for better conditions, a better place to live, or better moments to experience. As a result, we deprive ourselves of the authenticity of the present moment which is the only place we can experience happiness, inner peace, love, personal growth, or change.
Living in the present moment doesn’t mean give up on your dreams, whether that means having a better job, starting a family, or being financially independent. It means being present-oriented and taking intentional action to give your future self a better life. Because your future starts here and now, in the present moment. So instead of running away from the here and now use the present moment to build a foundation for your future.
Design Your Dream Life Workbook
This workbook is designed to help you figure out your dream life, life goals & your life purpose. Whether you begin their journeys into adulthood and you trying to figure out what you want, or you’ve been living life as an authentic adult for some time now but you feel the need to make a big change and pivot your goals effectively, this workbook can help you self-reflect on your present self, create an inspiring and captivating image of your future self, set appropriate goals and find the motivation to chase your dreams!
- 7 Steps to Success In Figuring our Your DREAM LIFE
- Self-Reflection & Self-Discovery Questions
- Dream Life Motto
- Tools for figuring out and designing your dream life
- The Wheel Of Life Worksheet (questions, diagram & fulfilment scale)
- Goal & Intention Setting Worksheet
- Wants, Needs & Desires Worksheet
- Happiness & Unhappiness List
- An Anti-Vision Worksheet
- List Of Things You Don’t Want In Life Examples & Worksheet
- Tips To Create An Inspiring Vision Of Your Future
- An Inspiring Vision Board
- Inspirational Quotes
- Hacks To Boost Your Daily Happiness
- The Description Of Your Future Worksheet
- A Letter To Your Future Self Worksheet
- Your Source of Inspiration Worksheet
- Focus List Worksheet
- Tips To Live An Intentional Life
- Successful Goal Setting Method
- Positive & Negative Habits Worksheet
- Healthy Habit Trackers
- Skills & Abilities Tracker
- 30-day Dream Life Challenge
- Bucket List Of Experiences Worksheet
- Creative Worksheets
- Business Owners
- College Students
- Mom & Dads
- People Currently Struggling With Setting Their Life Goals
- People Searching For Their Life Purpose
- & more!
Keep Your Expectations in Check
We all have expectations in life. We expect people with whom we interact to behave in a certain way. We expect our significant others to read our minds. We expect to get what we give. We expect opportunities to just fall at our feet. We expect faster career growth and a bigger paycheck. We expect people to be kind and helpful. We expect life to fair and easy. We expect everything goes according to our plan. ALWAYS. And when our expectations don’t happen we tend to suffer.
When things don’t go as we planned we fall into the victim trap thinking that the universe is conspiring against us. We keep creating this negative narrative to describe our tragic experience instead of using our less-than-perfect circumstances to our advantage.
The truth is, nothing is the end of the world, until the end of the world. So when reality doesn’t meet your expectations and things don’t go according to plan A, search for plan B. Lower your expectations, take intentional action to remove yourself from the situation you don’t want to be and move forward. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself. Take a deep breath, regain mental clarity and put yourself in motion AGAIN.
Act Despite Fear
Oftentimes we get a brilliant idea of our next project, we’re excited about the challenge and confident about the result but then something that blocks us happens. That “something” is our fear of failure.
Suddenly all the excitement fades away, our vision becomes blurry and we start thinking that we lack the skills, abilities, and resources required to bring our goal to fruition. So instead of taking action, we start convincing ourselves that it’s better to not start something that isn’t meant to happen. As a result, we abandon our project because we let fear stop us from pursuing our dream.
Fear of failure can be paralyzing – it can make you hesitate to take action so long that you choose not to do anything “for your own good”. Because it’s better to stay safe than cope with defeat right? Well, not really.
The truth is, your fear of failing is terrifying until you realize that it’s just an illusion of the mind. You’re afraid of things that haven’t even happened yet and the truth is, they may never happen. But you choose the worst-case scenario to protect yourself from a potential catastrophe. If you think about it, obsessing about what can go wrong is like failing ahead of time.
So instead of assigning your fear more power than it actually has, accept that something may go wrong during the process of achieving your goal. And when it happens you will turn that failure into a powerful lesson, change your strategy, adjust your mindset and start again. After every failure, you come back stronger than ever before!
Use Your Pain For Personal Growth
We tend to run away physically or mentally from difficult situations and painful emotions as if that could take away our pain and sorrow. But the truth is, no one can outrun pain no matter how fast their run. The only way to reduce pain in the mind and body is to accept it.
Accepting a painful experience take all the pressure off of you so that you can regain mental clarity and respond mindfully, instead of reacting impulsively to a given situation.
When my dad died from ALS two years ago I thought that the pain I was experiencing would literally kill me. The first thing that came to my mind after receiving the news was: I am not going to make it because I’m not strong enough.
After the initial shock wore off and I could get my head together I realized that I have a choice:
- I can let the pain I was feeling completely break me
- I can turn this pain into personal growth
I chose the second option. I accepted my pain as inevitable but I choose not to suffer. I made a conscious decision to turn this painful experience into positive growth and meaningful change. Was it easy? NO. Was it worth it? YES.
If you are interested in learning how you can turn your pain into personal growth I wrote a post on this topic titled “5 Steps For Turning Your Pain Into Wisdom” that you can read here.
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- Use best time management apps to keep you on schedule at work
- Organize your day around your goals
- Use the Eisenhower Box to identify your top priorities and avoid the urgency trap
- Create and maintain a powerful morning routine
- Develop morning rituals to make your motivation flow effortlessly
- Create motivation through action
- Start before you are ready
- Improve your decision-making process
- Overcome your self-limiting beliefs that block your progress
- Balance productivity and happiness
- Cultivate self-care routine
- The 3 x 8 rule for Perfectly Balanced Day & Life
- Create rituals to induce a flow state
and make mindset shifts to accelerate your success and personal growth